14、当你不把感情当回事的时候，你的痛苦就会减少很多呢

The passage emphasizes the importance of not taking感情 too seriously to reduce pain， suggests that a healthy marriage relies on personal growth and ability to manage it， and warns against overly investing in a relationship， as it can lead to disappointment and loss. It also highlights the concept that happiness comes from self-improvement rather than dependency on others.