作家余华的观点：最好的婚姻不是不吵架，而是有本事越吵越亲密！

Author Yu Hua believes that the best marriage isn"t about no arguments， but the ability to strengthen bonds through constructive disagreements. After conflicts， couples who communicate patiently and resolve issues quickly can deepen their connection. The key is active problem-solving， mutual understanding， and expressing feelings honestly. Love and hate are intertwined in this process， as conflicts arise from在乎和被在乎的需求.